Want to be resilient and comfortable in the uncomfortable?

We have all been living in an uncomfortable situation for a long time, to say the least. Some people are fighting, some are fleeing and many are frozen. It's causing much world-weariness. What do you naturally do when confronted by discomfort? In this blog, you'll learn 5 tips on how you can get comfortable with the uncomfortable.

One of the first things that we do when feeling uncomfortable is we resist. What is resistance? It's the chaos and unsafe feelings you experience when you are going through change. Over time via conditioning from your parents, society and your own experiences, you've developed ways of coping to stressful situations. Each time you experience a situation, you apply the learned response and often that response doesn't serve you or help with the situation. It's a form of self sabotage.

Learning new ways to respond to change and discomfort is needed so you can get through with more ease and less suffering.

We should be grateful for all the situations that make us the most uncomfortable because without them we would not know there is something unhealed in us - Ken Wapnick

What can you choose to do when feeling uncomfortable?

1. Heal yourself. What is unhealed in you? Can you face and confront your greatest fear? Peace is possible in everything. The benefits of healing yourself and leaning into your fear are hugely transformational. This is what I've found so amazing in my own life and working with my clients is when something triggered you for a long time and then to be free of that reaction. When you choose to confront your fear and heal it, life truly opens up in a myriad of ways.

2. Return to love. Do you notice fear is present when you feel uncomfortable? In these moments, choose love over fear. Allow yourself to be enveloped in a blanket of love. Send love to your body and any uncomfortable feelings you may be experiencing.

3. Letting go of the story that's repeating on a loop. Often we don't realise that we have been holding onto a story for a very long time until someone objectively let's us know. It's easy to keep the story on a constant playback loop because of how the brain is wired, neurons that wire together, fire together. The brain wants to go down the well worn paths because it takes the least effort, the path of least resistance. To change and transform, we have to let go of the old stories and challenge our brains to create new neural pathways.

4. If everything comes from within you, what are you reacting to 'out there'? When you find yourself reacting, stop, take 3 deep breaths and find stillness within. Acknowledge to yourself that there is nothing external to you to blame. Accept that what you are reacting to outside yourself is coming from within you. Make peace and accept total responsibility. Take another 3 deep breaths and breathe in peace and breathe out stress.

Please sign up to receive my free gift "5 Strategies to Bust Stress Fast" by clicking here.

5. Develop resilience. Developing resilience will help you many times over and you will have the inner resources to get through challenges. What is resilience? It's essentially the ability to bounce back after an upheaval or a challenge in life. The quicker you can bounce back, the more resilience you are demonstrating.

It's a good idea to have some strategies and strengths to lean on when you are faced with discomfort. You can identify these by looking at the 6 elements of your life:

1. Fun

2. Spirituality

3. Relationships

4. Health

5. Career / Business

6. Finances

Which area of your life do you lean on more from the list above when you need to be resilient? For example, if health is your primary resilience strength then perhaps you focus more on exercise or eating healthy. If you find your health suffering during challenges and reaching for the unhealthy foods or skipping meals then this tells you that your health is one of the areas impacted by a lack of resilience.

Another example is if you turn to a trusted advisor during challenges such as a mentor / coach, family member or friends then relationships are where you prefer to go to support you with your resilience. If you withdraw from others and don't seek their support then this would show how you are impacted during challenges.

There's no right or wrong answers here, however, it's important to build your self awareness and how you respond when you are experiencing discomfort and how you can find comfort and build resilience. There's many strategies to develop resilience available to you to help you get through life with ease.

If you want to heal and be highly resilient and experience self mastery, then book a 30 minute complimentary Focused Results Coaching Session with me by clicking here.

Here's to living your best life!

Melissa Taylor

Future Transcendence Leadership Mentor

Author of A Practical Guide to Finding Your Soul Purpose

Do you want to leverage the power of your mind? Buy this book, "Super Brain". As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.