Discover why your relationships are very important

Did you know that your relationships, even the most challenging ones, can be a spiritual catalyst for you? 

Are you trying to make a relationship work?

If you feel that you are having an uphill battle or trying to make a relationship work, then you are working against the Divine will. If you are just using your will, you will find a series of negative situations will occur until you let go and allow Spirit to effect Its will through you.

Align your will with Spirit's will, not what you are trying to twist the relationship into.

If it's time for a relationship to end, it means there is a plan, another soul who is coming forward.

If a relationship feels hard, know that it was there to teach you and for you to work through your challenges. Once the lessons are done, then a relationship may end. Be ok with that, release, and know it's all for a higher purpose. Don't hold on or cling to the past, move on. Acknowledge all the beautiful soul learning that the relationship gifted to you. 

You have soul assignments and these are worked through in relationships. If you are avoiding relationships, then you have a fear of feelings e.g. being hurt or rejected or abandoned. I hear many single women, including my clients, not wanting to have a relationship. Face the fear and heal but don't avoid relationships, they are gifts. If you fear ending the relationship, it might be because you fear being alone or how others will judge you.

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself - Deepak Chopra.

Your relationships, including the most challenging ones, are spiritual catalysts. Move towards the situations that make you uncomfortable so you can heal.

Is stress affecting your relationship?

When there is stress from other areas of life e.g. financial, health or career, it can easily spill over into your relationships. When this happens, it can make you want to withdraw from loved ones and often intimacy and affection takes a back seat too. You may also distract yourself with social media, drugs / alcohol, food, and TV rather than focusing on the fear or emotions needing to be healed. It's important to deal with the cause of the stress and see your relationship as the support to help you get through the situation.

At other times, the relationship maybe the source of your stress and if it is then you need to pause and reflect and learn the lesson. The same type of problem, situation or person will keep showing up until you have healed and completed the assignment. So make the choice to heal today.

Men and women cope differently with stress in relationships. A study published in Psychological Review suggested that due to hormone imbalances caused by stress, women will move towards nurturing and protecting, whereas men will have a tendency to fight or flight and often wanting to suppress their emotions and escape. 

Assess the level of stress in your relationship because it can vary from minor/one off misunderstandings to regular feelings of sadness, anger, fear or disappointment.

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So what can you do to improve your relationship?

1. Practice self care and ensure you are factoring in your own relaxation time.

2. Improve your communication skills. Choose to actively listen to the other person and to want to understand their position. Use "I" statements to express your feelings. One of the top 5 regrets of the dying is "I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings," so explain how you feel and ask the other person to listen. If you don't, then it can lead to resentment and more distance in the relationship. Sharing your feelings creates intimacy and connection.

3. Create a calm and psychologically safe environment by releasing judgements, embracing differences and finding common ground/areas where you agree. See all of your relationships through the eyes of love regardless of what is happening.

Mastering relationship skills and emotions is key to living your best life.

Here's to living your best life!

Melissa Taylor

Future Transcendence Leadership Mentor

Author of A Practical Guide to Finding Your Soul Purpose

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